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My Facebook addiction…

I must admit that I liked it. The first few years I was on it I only used it maybe once a week to start. But then, with time, and improvements to the quality, I started using it more and more. After six years of steadily increasing abuse though, I thought… I wonder what this stuff is doing to my brain? And how much of my life and time am I losing to it? Maybe I should quit. You know, start small at first, like reduce the amount, and the days on it, and then over time, maybe I’ll just quit altogether you know? Like never use it again…

So after some deliberation with myself, and hearing about a friend who recently stopped, I had made up my mind. No small steps for me baby- I was quitting cold turkey and this was final. The first day off was the hardest. I remember anxiously pacing back and forth, picking it up and putting it down. Arguing with myself that I could just be on it for an hour and stop. That wouldn’t cause too much harm. But no, I had made a vow to stop for three weeks and I was going to keep it no matter what! However, I did relapse on day three with some friends, but only for an hour- and I had a great excuse- I needed, no no, I mean I absolutely had to share- and there was no other option really. And that was all it took to suck me back in. I felt terrible. I was guilty of breaking my own vow and making it ok somehow in the process.

This is when I decided to make a plan. I would need to start filling my time with other things and when I got the urge to use, I would just have to do something that I could not do when I was using it. Something REAL. Something CONSCIOUS. Something…

So I sat, and I thought. I started to imagine all  the things I could be doing with my time instead. What started to come was surprising and as the days passed on, it became easier and easier. I used to wake up and use it before doing anything else, so instead I changed my routine to a morning meditation when I first woke up as part of my plan. This was a great first step for me as it set the tone for the rest of the day. There were also other various times throughout the day that I would find myself wanting to use it, so each time I would pick it up, I would just look at it, remind myself there are better things to do, and start listing them in my mind and on paper. Below you can find a short list of eight simple things I did to help me cope:

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1- Go out and play in nature. This may seem like common sense to some of you, but for me, it had been a rare occurrence in my ever increasing robot existence. Playing in the water, walking barefoot on the earth, climbing the trees – it was these things that reminded me of where grounded reality could be found and it was free on so many levels.

 

 

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2- Meditate. This is the one thing that helped me to see all the other possibilities and also become more centered within myself. An absolute must do if your trying to cope with an addiction like I am, or a break up (which yea, I had that too), or possibly your in-laws (luckily I got skipped on this one).

 

 

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3- Talk to strangers. Having a random conversation with someone on the street, at the beach, or in the tea shop helped a lot. Although at times I found that many other people also were inflicted with the same addiction, it did not discourage me, it really only encouraged and reminded me just how hard it could be to quit and that clearly I was not alone.

 

 

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4- Be more present. This one took some patience, and some time. But after more and more practice of living in the present, I slowly began to be able to hold eye contact for longer periods of time, and thought about using less and less. In fact, it seemed to fade from me quicker, even though so many other people were “liking” it just as much, if not more, than I did.

 

 

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5- Exercise. Moving my body wether it be doing yoga, running, simple stretching or playing a sport always made me feel better. Not to mention that the “feel good” endorphins produced from a good healthy heart rate increase were also very helpful. And the icing on that cake was that my body was beginning to look pretty fabulous I must say which doesn’t get any complaints from me.

 

 

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6- Horizon gazing. I began to notice that my eye muscles had become weaker with the use over time, and so I started doing some “eye yoga” to help regenerate them. Eye yoga is basically focusing on using your eye muscles, and one way you can do this is by looking at an object that is close to you, one a bit further away, and then gazing into the horizon far far away. There are many other exercises within eye yoga, but this was the one I enjoyed the most so I shared it here.

 

facebook addiction 7- Daydreaming. Now this is my absolute favorite way to cope with just about anything- addiction or otherwise. I like to get in my hammock, and put on my headphones listening to my chill out mix and just sway with the wind and imagine possibilities for my present and future. I found that along with the meditation, I was no longer as interested in “liking” somethings over others, as I had started “liking” myself and the people around me more than using.

 

 

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8- Writing. I have always enjoyed writing and I mean really writing – not short text messages with all the new lingo either. I started writing poetry, short stories, some of my daydreams and ideas, and the more I did it, the more I enjoyed it. Kind of like my addiction, but creative writing definitely didn’t leave me feeling like an empty zombie with no ambition or drive.

 

 

My Facebook Addiction…

This experiment with quitting my FACEBOOK ADDICTION for three weeks has proved to be quite a revealing process as to how I sometimes live my life, and what I miss out on with this virtual addiction. I have to admit that taking the hiatus from FACEBOOK has been one of the best things I have done for my life next to deciding to backpack around the world. I saw how it all had started for me, what was pulling me back in, why I felt I needed it so much, and what I was missing out on when I used it without discression or even a conscious thought beforehand. It made me realize so many things about living that I may just actually have to quit my Facebook Addiction altogether and spend more time doing the things I listed above. It was these things that gave me the opposite and a more pleasant feeling overall anyway.

If while reading this you also feel that you may have a FACEBOOK ADDICTION, or are unaware if you do, I advise you to take a hiatus yourself and see what develops for you. A break might just be the only thing you need to see where you might be with what I have dubbed “the greatest distraction to the self ever created”.

I would love to hear your thoughts on FACEBOOK ADDICTION and encourage you to use the blue comment button below to share! But then, please, go outside and play with some strangers – maybe lead an impromptu yoga lesson in the street as well. Just remember to bring a bag to collect the gateway to the drug (AKA: iphones, androids, tablets and otherwise) so that your struggling friends are not tempted to use during this time as well. As for me, another hiatus from Facebook is on it’s way . . ironically right after I share this with you there first.

 

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She’s the one with the messy, unkempt hair colored by the sun. Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. But for every flaw on her skin, she has an interesting story to tell.

Don’t date a girl who travels. She is hard to please. The usual dinner-movie date at the mall will suck the life out of her. Her soul craves for new experiences and adventures. She will be unimpressed with your new car and your expensive watch. She would rather climb a rock or jump out of an airplane than hear you brag about it.

Don’t date a girl who travels because she will bug you to book a flight every time there’s an airline seat sale. She won’t party at Republiq. And she will never pay over $100 for Avicii because she knows that one weekend of clubbing is equivalent to one week somewhere far more exciting.

Chances are, she can’t hold a steady job. Or she’s probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn’t want to keep working her ass off for someone else’s dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don’t waste her time complaining about your boring job.

Don’t date a girl who travels. She might have wasted her college degree and switched careers entirely. She is now a dive instructor or a yoga teacher. She’s not sure when the next paycheck is coming. But she doesn’t work like a robot all day, she goes out and takes what life has to offer and challenges you to do the same.

Don’t date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty. She doesn’t have a plan or a permanent address. She goes with the flow and follows her heart. She dances to the beat of her own drum. She doesn’t wear a watch. Her days are ruled by the sun and the moon. When the waves are calling, life stops and she will be oblivious to everything else for a moment. But she has learned that the most important thing in life isn’t surfing.

Don’t date a girl who travels as she tends to speak her mind.
 She will never try to impress your parents or friends. She knows respect, but isn’t afraid to hold a debate about global issues or social responsibility.

She will never need you. She knows how to pitch a tent and screw her own fins without your help. She cooks well and doesn’t need you to pay for her meals. She is too independent and wont care whether you travel with her or not. She will forget to check in with you when she arrives at her destination. She’s busy living in the present. She talks to strangers. She will meet many interesting, like-minded people from around the world who share her passion and dreams. She will be bored with you.

So never date a girl who travels unless you can keep up with her. And if you unintentionally fall in love with one, don’t you dare keep her. Let her go.

Author: Adi Zarsadias

So what is CONSCIOUSNESS ENGINEERING?

Consciousness Engineering is a kind of “life-hack” way of tapping into infinite source and retraining your brain, and in essence, your reality. It has you question everything about your models and systems for living, and find out which ones actually are working for you, and which ones are kind of getting in the way. From a very young age, we adopt models and systems from the people around us- whether it be our parents, siblings, friends, preachers, or teachers. (Yea, we all have had that “something is not right because someone else told us it was wrong” experience I’m sure)

Consciousness Engineering is really like taking a look at these systems and models and seeing which ones are truly yours, and which ones belong to others and have been adopted by you accidentally. It is in knowing or believing these things that we create our reality, so what not take a really good look at them?

How did I find Consciousness Engineering?

I have been  following a group of people for the past year… they work for a man named Vishen Lakhiani who is the founder of a company called Mind Valley. Recently I signed up for a Consciousness Engineering Course taught online by Vishen, and in this presentation, he talked about something called The Envisioning Method. During my travels I have been practicing The Law of Attraction and really pushing the ceiling of possibility for myself and my beliefs by actively seeking to see through them. I have found many interesting things to be true, and interestingly enough, I have found even more things to be totally and completely UNTRUE- for me that is…

So here is the challenge: Below I have explained the Envisioning Method as Vishen Lakhiani had described it in his online class, and I have decided to test this method everyday for the next 30 days and also keep a journal everyday about the process as I play with it. I will post two following updates if anything significant happens ;) which I totally am expecting! Ok so here is the method:

Consciousness Engineering: The Envisioning Method

This method is to be done in a 30-40 minute long meditation :)

1- Connection: See the energy above you, embody this and then project compassion starting in the room you are in and expanding to the neighborhood, the state, country and then world. Receive love, give compassion. *See a white light flow from the top of your head slowly down body- eyes, chin, neck, chest, abdomen, hips, thighs, knees, legs, feet. Your entire body is pulsating with compassion. Channel this and fill the entire room you are in. The compassion ends filling the world. Watch from above – birds eye view. 

2- Gratitude: 5 things personal, 5 things in career – give thanks- express this gratitude. *Personal could be: A hug you received, someone that shared something beautiful- feel the joy from these memories. Then 5 things from career- new income source created? Contract you want? Moment of praise? Imagine these things.

3- Charges: Forgiveness stage. Release pain in the emotional body. Remember someone who wronged you and forgive them. For a longer term issue – several sessions may be needed. Bring back someone you can easily forgive to start with (maybe someone cut you off in traffic or said something hurtful to you). Do a practice session and imagine the persons face. Mentally tell them – I forgive you and I ask for you to forgive me in return. Feel the pain dissolve as you look into their eyes and see them smile as the forgiveness takes effect. Let them disappear from your mental screen. 

4- Visions: Visualize your life 3 years down the road. Focus on abundance, relationships and health. Ideal life3 years from now- HEALTH: as if you have not aged- perfect health, see yourself doing what you would love to do. Feeling younger and looking great- attractive and healthy. Illness if you have one has gone into remission. Perfectly healthy. See and feel yourself already there. Your body is serving you the way you need it to serve you. RELATIONSHIPS: What is your ideal level of relationships in your life- lovers, family, friends, community. What does it feel like to be truly loved- perfectly in tune with everyone. Everything is operating at the highest level. WEALTH & ABUNDANCE: How much money do you earn? How much freedom do you have? How does it feel to have everything you want- to help the people you want to help- to travel – to live life abundantly.

5- Intentions: Set an intention on how you want the day to unfold. Think about this day will go from hour to hour. See your day unfolding perfectly. Break into 3 segments to start- morning, afternoon and night. As you progress, see it hourly- feel how perfectly everything flows. End your day with going to bed having the most amazing wonderful sleep that leaves you feeling energized for the next day.

6- Blessing: Pretend and adopt the model that there is a higher power and is filling you with power and with a blessing. The light consumes you again and slowly starts at your head – any color you wish – crown of head, face, mouth, neck, chest, abs, hips, thighs, knees, feet – know that you are loved and protected and that there is someone watching over you.

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So this is the envisioning method that I will be doing every morning for the next 30 days! :)  If you think you are up for it, I invite you to explore this with me and share your experiences with others below in the comment section:)